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The Endless Eater

Although many parents are concerned about their children eating healthy foods, there are also some who need help with a child who seems to eat endlessly.  These parents have observed that if there is food available, their child will continue to eat.  So if the advice is to let your child decide when they have had enough to eat, what do we do with these children, let them eat endlessly?

That might not be a bad first step.  What would happen if you let the child eat until they decided that they had enough?  How long would they actually continue to eat, especially if you are choosing what foods to offer?  By demonstrating to your child that you are willing to let them make the decision to stop you are proving that you respect their ability to make this decision.  Sometimes allowing them to eat as long as they would like to, assures your child that they are truly in control of their food intake and that there will be enough food if they need it.  This may offer the child enough security to start to eat only what they need at the time.

There are other reasons why a child may seem to eat too much at a snack or meal.  Consider the timing of meals.  If meals are too far apart, then when a child is offered food they may eat as much as they can for as long as they are allowed.  They are protecting themselves from becoming over-hungry and/or because they don’t trust that the next offering of food will happen within a comfortable time for them.  Most children need to be offered a snack or meal every 2.5-3.5 hours.  If this is regularly not happening a child may eat for as long as possible when given the opportunity.

Some children have very high pleasure responses to foods.  These children are eating because it tastes good, eating gives them pleasure.  These children need to be reminded that we stop eating when our bodies feel full, or sated.  After a reasonable amount of food has been eaten ask this child, “Are you felling full, does your belly feel like you have had enough?” Keep helping your child to become sensitive to the feeling that food gives their body, not just their tongue/brain connection.  Guide them to feel a connection between food and reaching a comfortable fullness.  If a child appears to have eaten too much you might ask, “I know that food taste good, but how does your stomach feel?  Is it too full?” Remind them that they need to feel their bellies during eating to know when to stop.

Some children start a meal with gusto.  They can’t seem to get the food in fast enough.  Then you may notice that their pace starts to slow, they are becoming easily distracted, and they are engaging in more conversation or starting to play with others or their food.  As soon as that starts, ask this child if they have had enough food.  Let them know that they can have more later, but maybe now is a time to take a break.  Let them leave the table and find something else to do if the food will be too much of a distraction.

Keep in mind that children offered healthy foods at regular intervals over the course of their week will take in the nutrients and energy that they need.  Once you have done this your job is to only offer suggestions or observations when you feel that eating is becoming inappropriate. Connecting the inappropriate eating with an undesirable effect allows the child to realize that they need to make a change.


Give Me Strength

The middle of summer break, and I am thinking about all of the things that I am supposed to get my kids to do that they don’t want to: work on math skills, reading, playing the recorder.  I am exhausted just thinking about it.  I, like many of you, work every day to hold things together, managing everyone’s schedule, maintaining some level of household cleanliness, keeping food in the house.  Don’t parents deserve a break? 

Apparently not.  Whichever way I turn, someone wants something from me.  Every morning, and I mean EVERY morning, my kids ask me “what can I have for breakfast”.  I tell them, the same as always:  eggs, pancakes, cereal, toast, cinnamon raisin bagel, or even pizza, tofu or teriyaki noodles.  I don’t care what it is as long as it is not completely sugar or fat.  I just want them to eat before they leave the house. Yet, this becomes exhausting for me as they won’t make a decision while it gets closer and closer to the time to leave for camp.

Of course, if you have read any of my blogs, I only have myself to blame.  One of my rules is don’t ask your kids what they want to eat.  Just put food on the table and let them eat it or not. I do this at dinner time.  I cook what I want, call everyone to the table and serve. I thought that at ages 9 and 13 years I could give my kids a choice about a meal as simple as breakfast.  Wrong.  They just drag it out.  Tomorrow I will offer them a choice of two items.  If they don’t want it, they are on their own.  I will leave on time, whether they have eaten or not.  Wish me strength.  I need it.